Chapter 11: First Impression Post

For this first impression, I choose to discuss my own stress management and how well my management style works. I have not experienced a college stress level yet, but I know that it is completely different from the high school stress level. I am typically a very stressed out person. I tend to stress out over small assignments or small things that I know I can do. I know what the assignment is and how it needs to be done, but I will still stress out about due dates and when I need to get it done. Not only do I stress out about school work, I also stress about things in life in general. I was very stressed out when I was picking what college to go to. There were many different factors that went into my decision, and I believe I made the right one for me. I was very stressed though thinking that I was not going where I should be etcetera.

Even though I stress out a lot, I do have some ways that I mange it. When I start to stress out things for school, I try to take some deep breaths to get my work done. I also think to myself that I have nothing to worry about because I know what I am doing. For situations in life, I have to think to myself that everything will work itself out in the end. If something is meant to be for me, eventually it will happen. A lot of my stress management tactics are just trying to think of something else to get my mind off of it and tell myself different sayings to get through it.

Overall, I feel like my own management skills work for me at times, but I think that there are ways I could improve it. Some other stress management activities I could do that could realistically help me would include, exercise, yoga, music, and getting organized. I already workout, so I know that it could be a useful activity for me to do. I know a lot of people who do yoga and love it and say how much more relaxed they feel after it. I have never taken a yoga class before, but I could imagine that it will help you to relax and I would like to try it sometime. I love listening to music especially when I am writing long papers, that does tend to make me feel more relaxed, so I think if I incorporate that more into my stressful situations it could help me feel less stressed. Finally, I definitely need to get organized. I believe that most of the time I become stressed because I have all of my things and notes scattered about trying to do schoolwork. If I get myself organized and put my notes into an organized pile rather then having all of them all over my desk, that would make me feel less stressed out.

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2 thoughts on “Chapter 11: First Impression Post

  1. You seem to be like me, a very stressed person. Stress is a response to a situation that threatens one’s sense of well being. It often has to do with stressors , they trigger a stress response. I do the same thing with stressing out about small assignments and due dates. That’s my real issues is due dates. As far as your stress management tactics go, it’s very good that you takes deep breaths and think about the outcome and how it’ll all work out versus the very stressful part. It’s really good that you recognize that there are different ways to handle stress like exercise, music, and organization. I have taken multiple yoga classes, and from my experience, it’s just so relaxing to walk out of the room and feel motivated to do what you need to do. It’s a nice relaxing break. Even in your dorm room you can just do a few yoga poses and get yourself centered again. I 100% recommend yoga, especially if you have friends that already go. I know there is a yoga class typically during the school year, so maybe that’s something you could try out. Being a music major, I literally listen to music 24/7. I basically eat, sleep, and breathe music. It’s good that you listen to music when you write long papers. When I’m studying or doing something that I need to do to focus, I find it helpful to listen to classical music. It’s just music, no words or lyrics you have to focus on. I suggest that because even when you’re just doing homework you can put it on in the background and go to town with your assignments. With your organization, it sounds like you have the right idea, to just put your notes in an organized pile rather than all over your desk. One thing I like to do it make a to-do list, color code everything, and use post-it notes to put around my room, to remind me to do something and to remind me of dates and things that are due. I also use my planner a crap ton. There’s notes on the sides, I write down every assignment (when it’s assigned and when it’s due) and everything else I can think of. Personally for me, it’s mostly my concerts etc. It sounds like all these small assignments are causing you to have acute stress, something that happens for a limited amount of time, for example, your small assignments for school. It also sounds like a lot of your stress comes from small things that occur, daily hassles. As long as you have your due dates in order, you should be set and knocking the small assignments out of the park are nothing. You just have to be motivated to sit down and get it done. I feel like another way to coping with your stress is to talk to someone. Coping is cognitive and behavioral strategies to manage stress. They are all highly individualized and what is an effective coping mechanism for one person could be a stressor to another. Talking to someone would be self-disclosure. I do this all the time with my best friend. I try to FaceTime her almost everyday and sometimes it can be for like 6 hours and we just sit there doing our own thing and talking. My best friend lives in West Virginia so I also don’t get to see her a lot but we FaceTime instead and it’s like we are together all the time. I think it all depends on who you talk to as well. I wouldn’t talk to someone who is going to turn their back on you. I would suggest a professor, a friend, or your mom or dad even, but I wouldn’t use this all the time. It can make you rehash all the time. When I have a lot of stress and when it leads to a panic attack, my one friend on campus calls me and I just cry to her but I don’t do that all the time. It sounds like you have a good mindset on what you should try to do differently this semester and all you have to do is take that step to do it.

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  2. As you transition from being a high school student to a college student, you will definitely experience stress in different ways. It already seems like you experienced stress from both external and internal pressures during your decision process of choosing which college to attend. The external pressures could have been the opinions your parents had about all the schools you were considering, while some internal pressures could have been your own personal opinions and how well they line up with what decision you think you are supposed to be making. Your primary stressors appear to be daily hassles, such as those small assignments with the potential to accumulate and grow into a bigger problem. Even though you know you are capable of moving past these little inconveniences, they add stress when they are not dealt with right away. Your stress management methods definitely have potential for improvement if you try new strategies, especially as you begin a new chapter of your life in college. As you mentioned, exercise is a great way to reduce stress as long as it is performed consistently throughout your weekly routine. When you think of something else to take your mind off of whatever is stressing you out, you could try using imagery to further the stress relief. One method is referred to as taking a mental vacation, where you picture yourself in a place that relaxes you. If you place yourself in this happy place, whether it’s on the beach or next to the fireplace at home, you may feel stress fade away. The best way to ensure this method works is to engage as many senses as possible. You can incorporate smells, sounds, sights, textures, and whatever else to paint the most involved imaginary escape possible. It sounds like you already practice mindfulness-based stress reduction when you remind yourself there is nothing to worry too much about, which is great! You have faith in yourself and accept that if something is meant to be, it will eventually be. You also remember to stay in the present and focus on what you can control, as well as what you know you have the ability to accomplish. Becoming more organized is an adaptive strategy that will help with managing stress and many other aspects of life. Organizing your schedule helps anticipate when busier times of your life may be happening and it helps to space out different assignments for college. Organizing your living space helps avoid daily hassles of losing your wallet or tripping over a pile of clothes, as well as helping you to get a better night’s sleep. Another suggestion I’ll end with is to eventually find people in college you trust, and disclose your stress to them. It can be extremely helpful to open up about things that add stress to your life, since the people you share this with may even have suggestions of how to avoid some of the problems causing your stress.

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